Thursday, February 16, 2017

I'm a socially-prescribed perfectionist. How about you?

I’m a socially-prescribed perfectionist. Yep! I have a HUGE fear of failure and I’m terrified of embarrassment, shame, and guilt. This is why I’ve never understood writers who have told me, “Oh, my novel will be a bestseller and is so much better than those on the NYT Bestseller list!” Um…that’s so overconfident and bold. There’s just no way I could ever say that. I mean…wow…I’m way too critical of myself and nothing I ever do is as good as I think it should be. But I also fear success. I mean, if I succeeded, then that would mean pressure to ALWAYS succeed (at least in my mind). Basically, I’m neurotic as hell!

So much for not caring what others think, right? Still got lots to work on, it seems! Oh well…awareness is an important first step.

What Flavor of Perfectionist Are You? – Psychology Today

From the article:
“In contrast, socially prescribed perfectionists may be compared to neurotic perfectionists [a term originally coined by Hamachek] in that they do not derive pleasure from their labors and efforts and tend to view their work as inadequate or inferior. Furthermore, they report experiencing external pressure and or coercion to accomplish tasks. Therefore, the maladaptive symptoms of the socially prescribed perfectionist emerge not from an internally felt desire to be their best, but more from a fear of failure and/or a desire to avoid embarrassment, shame and guilt” (p. 154).

Bring on the night!

While you're sleeping soundly at 3 a.m., I'm usually up slinging words, editing documents, absorbing university course lectures, researching, wrestling with websites, scouring freelance listings, or tackling the next creative project.

As your night is ending, mine is just beginning.

It's quieter.
People don't interrupt you.
Your focus is sharper.
Your concentration is better.

If you pay attention, you can hear the subtle whispers of creative, inventive, unconventional souls that have gone before you – if you listen deeply enough. There is, in fact, precious illumination that is found in the darkness.

Oh yes, I do love the night and the energy it brings! As a naturally nocturnal soul, I wouldn't have it any other way.  Bring on the night!

Thursday, February 09, 2017

Newest review for SUN SIGNS FOR WRITERS

Humbled by this review of Sun Signs for Writers. So glad you enjoyed my book, BeBe LeStrange.

Upcoming NEW role: grandparent!

Paul & I are proud to announce that our daughter, Britt, and her fiance, Trevor (Tack), are expecting their first child around May 27, 2017. We are beyond excited and thrilled! The latest ultrasound showed the baby is a boy. They plan to name him Kane, which is an uncommon, but incredibly cool name.

We are going to be first-time grandparents in a matter of months. And we plan to ROCK those roles, too!  😍